Vivian: Potty Training – Day 1
Potty training began as planned, as soon as I was done with school. There wasn’t a huge rush, and I wasn’t sure she’d be ready, but I wanted to try. I wasn’t so sure as the day began and the accident count mounted. Here is how it played out. The times are approximate and rounded based on the timestamp on the emails I was sending myself to keep track. Sounds crazy, I know, but if I didn’t, the day would be a blur, and I didn’t want that. This way I can start to learn her patterns, if she has any.
The girls got up just as I was starting to make waffles with Mac. Thus began the struggle for the stool as is normal. I put Vivian in underwear right away, but she didn’t want to sit on the potty. I didn’t fight it – I wanted to avoid the power struggles as much as possible. I could feel my patience was already low! I put a pad on her chair during breakfast, and she made it through. I honestly can’t remember if I put her on the potty after breakfast, but I don’t think so. I think again she said she didn’t want to.
10:55 a.m. accident #1
But just a few minutes later, she had her first accident. She was near the coloring table. She did stand up, so she must have known something
was happening! She said, “poopy,” and wanted to go in her room, presumably to change her diaper? We went and sat on the potty, but she didn’t go. I was frustrated that she wasn’t listening when I tried to explain what had happened… Had to regroup.
I took her outside after that. Josie went back to bed – she was cranky! Mac was consumed by his game, which was fine for now this day was playing out. I had forgotten just how much constant attention this process requires!!
12:30 p.m. accident #2
This time I could notice she was doing something, so I stopped her and ran her to the potty. She had tinkled and also had a little poop. She sat on the potty for about 10 minutes. Nothing.
Set the timer for 15 minutes and put her back on the potty. Also started “juice therapy!” She never did go, and then it was time for lunch.
1:15 p.m. accident #3
At the table during lunch. She looked up and said, “poopy.” I told her, “no, Vivian, that’s tinkles.” at that point I was really thinking maybe she wasn’t ready. I did put her on the potty, but she didn’t go. So we cleaned up and kept going.
1:35 p.m. accident #4
Again at the table. This time she looked up and said, “oopsies!” Well hey, at least she knows it’s not supposed to happen, right?! I asked if she made more tinkles, and she said, “no, poopies.” Hmmm… At least I knew the juice was working – had to work on the timing!
1:40 p.m. (yes, that time is right) accident #5
Still at the table. This time she said, “having poopies!” No, Vivian, that’s tinkles again. Oy.
So we get up from lunch, and I was going to out her on the potty, but I figured she can’t possibly have any more, right? Wrong!
1:50 p.m. (not exaggerating!) accident #6
She walked into the kitchen, looked at me, and went right on the floor. Are you kidding me?! We went to the potty, but she had nothing. Ugh. She must be empty now, right?! I figured I was safe letting her out of my sight for at least a few minutes…
2:10 p.m. (approximate) accident #7
She came into the kitchen again, but already wet. She had gone all over the floor. I’m not sure if she stood up or not, but the puddle made it seem like she did. And then we had a classic move – she slipped on it and fell!
After that last one, I figured, hey, if she can go THAT many times in an hour, I’m going to see how long she’ll just sit on the potty – maybe she’ll sit long enough to go again, then we can make some progress!
She did it! She did it! She did it! She still called it poopy, but hey, we’re taking baby steps forward here. Small victories are still victories!
3:00 p.m. accident #8
This time poopy. And no acknowledgement from her. I simply noticed she had gone. And we had another frustrating exchange as I tried to teach her once again which is which.
At this point, I’m seriously questioning my decision to start this process today. I decided here also to skip a nap for her today so we could keep the momentum going. However, I have a ton of tasks I wanted to complete, not the least of which was to bake the cakes I had to have ready so I could create something from them the next day for Vivian’s party on Sunday. Instead I’m running up and down the stairs to try to do a load of laundry because we are close to running out of clean underwear for her. I know, I could just forgo the underwear, but I can’t do it. Oh well, there’s always bedtime…
3:30 p.m. accident #9
I had set the timer for 20 minutes from her poopy and sat her on the potty. She didn’t go in the 5-10 minutes she was on there. About 30 seconds later, she wet her pants outside.
After that last accident, I tried the “sit until she goes” method again. It took that long, but she DID go!
4:15 p.m. accident #10
This time she came to me with it running down her leg and said, “more tinkles, Mommy.” Well, at least she’s getting the vocabulary down! I sat her on the potty.
She sat there this long… and finally went! I set my timer for 20 minutes. Didn’t want to miss it again!
4:50 p.m. accident #11
Round 2 of the underwear stock starts here.
5:00 p.m. accident #12
When is Jeremy getting home?!
Went on the potty, but only because she’s been sitting there since the last accident. Now I’m really not sure she’s ready. How does a person go THIS many times in an hour?!
She’s still dry. It’s been 10 minutes. I put her on the potty again and made her sit until she went.
Went on the potty!
She’s been dry for 15 minutes. The timer was about to go off when she came to me and said, “more tinkles on the potty.” She sat on the potty, and this time it took only a few minutes for her to go! Is she getting it?!
She was dry through dinner, and then I went to church and left Jeremy to the task. He said he sat her on the potty after dinner and that she went within a few minutes.
In summary, for Day One:
6 Tinkles in Potty